When you don’t realize you’re in a narcissistic and or abusive relationship, you don’t know how to make sense of what’s happening.
You don’t know why you feel the way you do.
You don’t know why you can’t think clearly anymore.
You don’t know why you can’t make things better.
All you know is that you’re lost, overwhelmed, anxious, and fatigued.
So it’s easy to think that the “problems” are with you.
After all, you’re the one who seems to be off balance and emotional all the time.
When you don’t know what kind of relationship you’re in, you blame yourself.
It’s like being in a tornado without realizing you’re in a tornado.
You feel tossed around, unsettled, and completely disheveled.
Which makes complete sense – you’re in a tornado!
You don’t blame yourself when you recognize that the cause of your symptoms is due to your environment.
Which is why awareness and education is so important!
Because once you SEE the abuser and or narcissist, everything becomes clearer.
It’s not that something is wrong with YOU – it’s that something toxic is in the air!
And if you breathe the fumes for long enough, you get sick.