Remember you fell in love with the version of them that they presented to you… you didn’t know that they would:
start to verbally, mentally & emotionally abuse you
blame shift & gaslight you to make you feel like the problem
they would be committed to never taking responsibility for their part
So please stop 
beating yourself up for loving someone who was a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
Try this instead:
LOVE on the part of you that feels betrayed, lied to, neglected & abandoned
LISTEN to what this part needs from you now & moving forward
EDUCATE this part of you on what they need to know as they move on
Your inner world NEEDS YOU.
Not the narcissist. Not the Abuser.
YOU are the one that is the savior of your inner world. 
The sooner you start loving yourself the sooner your external world matches your internal landscape.
If you’re ready to heal from your past narcissistic or abusive relationship so you can find inner peace, stop people pleasing & fall in love with yourself take the next step, get in touch and join one of our next retreats.